Ahhhh… the question that gets debated and talked about – the answers that shape and mold the character of online dating individuals…and why some men never get a second date with certain women, paying the check.
The man who feels pressured into paying the check is just as powerless as the woman who feels he should pay it. Come on People can’t we just all get along! What is the deal with paying the check? If that is the issue – just go for coffee, or meet at the corner of a busy intersection – I am sure that is still free. We have choices today. But then again certain traditions die hard.
There are many men who have expressed to me that women EXPECT men to pay the check even at this first meeting. Well if that is the case and the man doesn’t feel like footing the bill for some half-likable female who might just want a free meal and milk it for what its worth – then split it. If you find that you have several of these dates that go nowhere and you would like to save your wallet, I think it is a very good idea to have a short interaction (drink/coffee) instead of dinner. It clears up most questions that go unanswered by profiles, emails and phone calls.
And don’t call it a date. It’s a ‘meeting’ if you will. One that just might determine if the both of you even want to see each again or wouldn’t give a second thought to if passed on the street. That way the bill shouldn’t be very high if the woman doesn’t do “the reach” (make motion for her wallet) and you end up with the bill, it’s not a whopper.
The real date comes after the two parties meet, have a connection and one asks the other out for real. That’s just my 21st Century my opinion. But my suggestion, my advice to the men out there? Regardless of what is politically correct, proper or even fair.
If you like the girl, pay the check.